A Call for Unity: A Single Voice for Solution

Well, it seems like the deadline for the Gardnerian-based solution has come and gone, and all we’ve heard is crickets.

They propose no solution to “parental alienation.”

The Gardnerians have no solution using the Gardnerian PAS model except 30 more years of exactly the same thing.

I am therefore calling for unity in our fight to save the children.  We need to come together to enact the solution as quickly as we humanly can.  Targeted parents and their children need a solution.  They don’t need professionals arguing about how many angels can dance on a head of a pin. They need this pathology to stop – today.

I have posted the path to the solution that is available from enacting a change to an AB-PA diagnostic model:

Solutions: A Return to Professional Practice

Solutions: The Dominoes

We need to bring all of our voices together – all of them – into a single voice for change.  We need to stop the suffering of targeted parents and their children as quickly as we possibly can.

I am therefore calling specifically on:

Bill Bernet

Karen Woodall

Amy Baker

the Parental Alienation Study Group

and all of the Gardnerian PAS contingent of “experts” – and on everyone who wants to see the pathology of “parental alienation” come to an end – to JOIN US in advocating for a professional standard of practice using the AB-PA diagnostic model.

Join us in advocating for a professional standard of practice and standardized assessment protocol for attachment-related pathology surrounding divorce using the AB-PA diagnostic model for the pathology.

AB-PA offers a solution (The Solution series: Return to Professional Practice; Dominoes).  Gardnerian PAS does not (crickets).

I don’t care if the Gardnerians “think” their diagnostic model is better.  The issue is a solution.  We need a solution.  Targeted parents and their children need a solution.

If the Gardnerian PAS diagnostic model with its eight symptom identifiers produces NO SOLUTION – then we need to change to the AB-PA diagnostic system that leads to an immediate solution.

And everyone – everyone – should be working toward that SAME goal.

I don’t care how many angels can dance on the head of a pin.  That’s not relevant.  The ONLY thing that’s relevant is a solution – targeted parents and their children are suffering – daily.  Day-after-day their grief and suffering continues, and day-after-day we continue to lose more and more children and families to the pathology.

There is urgency.

This cannot wait, we cannot delay.  Each day that is lost can never be recaptured.

Mental health professionals – the Gardnerian PAS “experts” – need to STOP arguing about how many angels can dance on the head of a pin and they need to work WITH US – not against us – in bringing a solution – one that is achievable today – to end the suffering of targeted parents and their children.

The time has come for ALL mental health professionals – including Bill Bernet, Karen Woodall, Amy Baker, and the PASG – to endorse an AB-PA diagnostic model that provides these parents and their children with a solution – an end – to the nightmare of “parental alienation.”

Let’s put the two models for a solution side-by-side:

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

Let’s now make a reasoned decision on the path moving forward.

AB-PA provides a clear and actualizable path to a solution.  Gardnerian PAS offers no solution.

It is time for ALL mental health professionals – ALL mental health professionals – to bring our voices together into one single unified voice for change – into one single unified voice for the solution to “parental alienation.”

I don’t care how many angels can dance on the head of a pin – that’s not relevant.  Each day that passes is another day lost in the lives of a loving targeted parent and child that can NEVER be recaptured. Children are only 10-years-old for a year – they are only 12-years-old for a year.  Times of love and bonding that are lost during childhood are lost forever.

Childhoods are being lost as we stand by and bicker about how many angels can dance on the head of a pin.  ENOUGH.

It is time for a solution.  It is long-past overdue for a solution.

It is time we come together into a single voice for change that will bring these targeted parents and their children a solution – today – now.

The grief of targeted parents is immense and utterly overwhelming.  Day-by day –  each day – they suffer so terribly.

We must ALL do everything we possibly can – everything we possibly can – to bring this suffering to an end as quickly as is humanly possible.

I don’t care how many angels can dance on the head of a pin. That’s not relevant. The ONLY thing that’s relevant is a solution to end the suffering of targeted parents and the psychological abuse of their children.

Delaying the solution by a single day when we possibly could have solved it is abhorrent and unacceptable.  We need to solve this as fast as we possibly can.

It is time for ALL mental health professionals to join together in a single voice for change, in a single unified voice advocating for a professional standard of practice using the AB-PA diagnostic model for the pathology:

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

It is not relevant how many angels can dance on the head of a pin.  It’s not relevant if you think this or that way of diagnosing the pathology is “better” – NOT relevant.  The ONLY thing that is relevant is the solution – we MUST end the suffering.  What is the path to a solution?  That is the ONLY relevant question.

The answer:

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

Both the AB-PA diagnostic model and the Gardnerian PAS diagnostic model have had full and complete opportunities to describe their respective paths to a solution.  We can now make a reasoned and considered decision on our path moving forward.

AB-PA provides a solution to targeted parents and their children that we can actualize today to end the suffering of these parents and their children today, and Gardnerian PAS offers no solution whatsoever – just 30 more years of the same.

ALL mental health professionals MUST place the needs of their clients first.  I don’t care about your dancing angels.

There is NO rational reason that would prevent us from coming together into a single voice in advocating for a professional standard of practice using the AB-PA diagnostic model for the assessment of attachment-related pathology surrounding divorce.

“Dr. Childress is wrong thinking only he has the solution.”

AB-PA:  8/6/17 – The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: 9/1/17 – nothing.

No, I’m not wrong.  The AB-PA diagnostic model provides a solution.  The Gardnerian PAS diagnostic model does not.

“Our model with eight diagnostic symptoms is better”

Dr. Childress: Does it lead to a solution?

“No.”

Dr. Childress:  Then your preferred approach is not relevant to a professional-level decision.  The ONLY thing that is relevant at the professional level is a solution – because a solution is in the best interests of the client.

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

It is not relevant how many angels can dance on the head of a pin.  The immense grief and suffering of targeted parents as they are forced to watch helplessly as their children are psychologically destroyed and abused by the pathology of their narcissistic/(borderline) ex- MUST STOP.

It MUST stop.

That is the ONLY relevant consideration.

It is time – in fact it is long past overdue – when ALL mental health professionals who authentically want to bring the suffering of targeted parents and their children to an end, bring their voices into a single unified voice for change to a standard of practice using the AB-PA diagnostic model that provides targeted parents and their children with a solution.

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

I asked the Gardnerian PAS “experts” to provide us with their proposed path to a solution by September 1, 2017 so we could make a reasoned and considered decision on our path forward.   Day-by-day the immense suffering of targeted parents and their children continues.  There is urgency.  We don’t have time to waste.

September 1 came and went.  No proposed solution from the Garnerian PAS “experts.”

It is time to bring this professional squabbling over how many angels can dance on the head of a pin to an END.  Enough!

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

The reasoned and considered decision by all rational people who authentically want to bring the pathology of “parental alienation” to an end is that the path to a solution is through an AB-PA diagnostic model – because Gardnerian PAS offers no solution.

This solution will come more quickly if we unite all of our voices into a single voice for a professional standard of practice using the AB-PA diagnostic system.

Every day we lose – every day we delay – every day we spend pontificating about pinheads and dancing angels – is another day of immense suffering for targeted parents and their children.

I am calling on ALL mental health professionals – including Bill Bernet, Karen Woodall, Amy Baker and the PASG – to bring ALL of our voices into a single call for a professional standard of practice using the AB-PA diagnostic model.

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

This is the ONLY rational path forward to end the suffering of targeted parents and their children.

It doesn’t matter if you think your “dancing angels” model is prettier and better.  The ONLY thing that matters is the solution – bringing an end to the immense suffering of targeted parents and their children.

AB-PA:  The Solution: A Return to Professional Practice; The Solution: Dominoes

Gardnerian PAS: nothing.

I am calling for a single unified voice.

Join us in bringing the nightmare of “parental alienation” to an end for these grieving parents and their children.

There is no rational reason not to join us in solving “parental alienation.”  From this point forward, continuing to sow division and discord that slows the solution offered by AB-PA is obstructionism.

If you are an obstructionist to the solution, then you are no ally to targeted parents and their children.  They need a solution.

The path forward into a solution is through AB-PA.

Craig Childress, Psy.D
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

2 thoughts on “A Call for Unity: A Single Voice for Solution”

  1. Friends,

    ALL OF IT EVERY WORD IS TRUE . . . PRETTY DANCING ANGELS ON THE END OF A PIN.

    Dr. Childress, your words are true, thoughts eloquently spoken, repetition necessary. Will they turn?

    “Pathogenic parenting, as determined by appropriate
    mental health assessment, which is creating significant developmental pathology,
    personality disorder pathology, and psychiatric pathology in the child in order to
    meet the emotional and psychological needs of the parent is reportable as
    psychological child abuse under this statute” (https://drcraigchildressblog.com/2016/03/24/legislative-approach-amending-child-abuse-reporting-laws/).

    Will they move to defend our children, setting aside all self-serving and ambitious motivation or will they be forced to bend?

    They have a choice. Now or later.

    I’m speaking as an alienated adult child of three children suffering from pathogenic parenting. I know how this goes and I want it stopped NOW.

    Thank you, Dr. Childress, for all you do.

    Susie

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